College Girl's Guide to Guys

When life gives you lame men, don't be a lame man's aid

You know the saying about when life gives you lemons...well you can't make good lemonade with a rotten lemon. Girls, not to put the blame on you, but just because you have the opportunity to be in a relationship or a guy wants you does not mean that he is the sweetest of the bunch and you should pick him.

Living in a sorority house, what some may picture as the sterotypical drama filled chaos you see in the movies, is far different than I expected when I was fifteen. While you may not be the best of friends with every girl living in the house, you learn so much about each other, form unexpected connections, and cherish random late night talks in the kitchen or sitting on the stairs for hours on end. My point is, yes, girls talk about boys sometimes, the movies are not completely skewed, but what the movies do not portray is how these women are all unique, intelligent, caring, and deserve more than any old frat boy that flirts with them.

It pains me to hear of girls being repeatedly unhappy in a relationship. I listen to these stories and it is easy from an outside perspective to think that she is silly for not making a change, but it is hard to acknowledge the insider point of view. "But it's not always like this" or "but I love him" does not make it a good relationship. The bad should NEVER outweigh the good. Loving does NOT mean that you are being loved back the way you should. Most importantly, it is NOT the best you can do. No one should ever settle for unhappiness or try to fix what is broken beyond repair. Do be a lame man's aid and try to make lemonade with the same sour lemon.

Romance is not a fairy tale unrealistic expectation. You deserve someone who makes you happy, challenges you, helps you grow, makes you a better person, and cares about you the way everyone deserves to be cared for. Whether you are in high school, college, or the "real world", do not lower your expectations to fit your environment. The more you maintain high ideals and manifest the life you wish to have, the closer you will be to obtaining it. People are attracted to positive energy and confidence, so chin up and strive for greatness. Love yourself before looking for love from others. Do not go searching for your other half, look for your other whole.

& enjoy the sweetest lemonade